I've talked to my friends about it. We've come to a consensus: Whenever you are happy and in a relationship, your exes (past lovers/ex-muse/whatever) shows up and tries to recapture what they once had. Don't you wonder what was running through their mind when they picked up their phone? Sometimes I ask. Sometimes, I even receive answers!
Looking back, I doubt that they were being completely honest with me (or themselves). Some could only vaguely remember who I was or why they wanted me (thank you inebriation). Although others, unabashedly let me know that their desires were of a more "animalistic" nature. Yet, there were a couple who could only remember the good times we had (even if there were NEVER any good times).
No matter the reason, whenever such circumstances occur, I decide to reflect upon my entire being.
"Oh my GOD! What did I ever see in them? How could I do that to myself? Love truly is blind. Why couldn't I be blind and talented like Helen Keller, Stevie Wonder, or the Daredevil?!?!"
After the shock wears off, it's so easy to list the reasons that we can't be together and in my heart there is no yearning to return to what there once was. All I can do is be civil and direct in my response to the stupidity of this world and place my faith in a higher power.
Even though my friends and I can agree that we've all experienced this, none of us are entirely sure of how the phenomenon happens or what can be done to stop it. Truly, it isn't too much of a nuisance. They are just like mosquitos buzzing around in the late, hot, muggy summer days in Alabama: irritating and insignificant.
Just like the mosquito. they are annoying as can be but they don't stay around for long. As Valentine's Day is right around the corner, go to your nearest grocery store and purchase a fly swatter. There is a swarm of mosquitos most likely headed your way.
Tierra C. Watkins